tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post9019200950661411025..comments2023-07-19T05:06:26.559-04:00Comments on The LL's Word: A Blog For M/M Romance Readers: CriticismThe LLadieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16117036581300581130noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post-56122886983702614522012-02-09T14:42:52.882-05:002012-02-09T14:42:52.882-05:00Thanks, Edina. Reacting positively to criticism is...Thanks, Edina. Reacting positively to criticism isn't an easy thing. Sometimes I stil have a spilt second of being pissy when I get criticized but then I just say to myself "oh, get over yourself". <br /><br />I had to learn too that not everyone is going to phrase things in a way that's all sunshine and rainbows. I like those people because they've taught me to separate myself as a person from the work that I create. <br /><br />I respect that and I respect artists and authors who can do that. I love people who can handle criticism as much as they can be critical.Laddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01670687612640691963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post-30110801251263877952012-02-09T13:28:29.203-05:002012-02-09T13:28:29.203-05:00Laddie, this is serious, deep stuff. I wish people...Laddie, this is serious, deep stuff. I wish people (me included) reacted to criticism more positively. Great post.Edinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08073232562699081479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post-90100013570656745512012-02-09T12:58:54.279-05:002012-02-09T12:58:54.279-05:00And criticisms can be accompanied by positive comm...And criticisms can be accompanied by positive comments. I think alot of people forget that you can say "It's great that you're trying so hard but..."Laddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01670687612640691963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post-673117197857411762012-02-09T12:56:13.290-05:002012-02-09T12:56:13.290-05:00I totally agree that praise has its value as well....I totally agree that praise has its value as well. Also because if you know that you've got the hang of something it can free you up to work on something that you still struggle with.Laddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01670687612640691963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post-75538795226075834702012-02-09T12:41:53.094-05:002012-02-09T12:41:53.094-05:00Great post! This reminds me of the discussions ab...Great post! This reminds me of the discussions about how today's kids are being raised. How every kid on a team gets a trophy whether they win or not. How they receive constant praise so their self esteem won't be damaged. Don't get me wrong. Everyone needs positive comments (when they are deserved). No one wants to be criticized all the time, either, but like you said, it is necessary or you will never strive to be better at what you do. I think I would rather have someone give me an honest opinion, even if it might hurt a little bit at the time.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17592954015398049709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post-60407551312153001682012-02-09T12:28:07.347-05:002012-02-09T12:28:07.347-05:00I have to agree, Laddie. Your post is spot on.
I...I have to agree, Laddie. Your post is spot on. <br /><br />I have been an artist my whole life (mostly graphite pencil), and started taking private portrait commissions as a teenager. So like you, I have grown up with criticism, and as long as it's constructive criticism, I listen to every single word and apply it. I appreciate when people praise my work, it makes me feel good, and we all need that from time to time. But I also get frustrated if no one is pointing out where I need work. My goal is for every single piece of art I do to be better than the last, because to me, it can always be better. We can always learn, grow and improve.<br /><br />As an author, one of my critique partners is seriously tough business, and I love him for it. He doesn't pull punches, but he will also point out when I've hit something he's been trying to get me to understand. As much as you need to know where you need to improve, you also need that little boost to tell you where you have. <br /><br />I agree completely, that if our weaknesses are never pointed out, how will they ever become strengths? That said, however, it's easier to swallow with a little dollop of sugar. ;-) Yes, please tell me the things that don't work, but also point out what does.L.C. Chasehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16921420000877318379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post-67859836134011351822012-02-09T11:50:28.648-05:002012-02-09T11:50:28.648-05:00Exactly, and when you're an artist and create ...Exactly, and when you're an artist and create something, you are way too close to your work to see every little thing that can be improved upon.<br /><br />It's even harder when you're new to your craft. <br /><br />The M/M genre has a lot of authors who are just starting out. When you're new to your craft there's a very good chance that you don't even know what imperfections you should be looking for. That's when you really need to surround yourself with people who won't just tell you how great you are.Laddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01670687612640691963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4797570043197026689.post-83205671210061527972012-02-09T11:41:57.115-05:002012-02-09T11:41:57.115-05:00Awesome post Lad, articulate and spot on. What'...Awesome post Lad, articulate and spot on. What's the use of having all this talent if you just let it stagnate?<br /><br />I wish writers understood that taking the time to read what they wrote, and to feedback constructively is showing them RESPECT, and valuing their efforts. I mean I don't have to actually read a book to give it five stars, and said I loved it and move on. But to sit, take notes, think about the story, and try to understand what a writer was going for, that to me shows that you understand the importance of their craft.Lauraadrianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03752476542846545199noreply@blogger.com